NOBODY ASKED...But I Remember

Nobody Asked... But I Remember spans seven decades of a life lived mostly in silence: a childhood in the remote Canadian north with a schizophrenic father and a mother who survived everything but said nothing; a rape at seventeen that she carried alone for fifty years; a series of jobs, houses, and relationships that taught her the art of adaptation; and a fifty-six year marriage to a man she spent decades trying to provoke into noticing her — before finally understanding that his stillness was its own kind of love.

Told with sharp wit, unflinching honesty, and the hard-won clarity of a woman in her late seventies who has finally stopped waiting to be asked, this memoir speaks directly to the millions of women who have experienced trauma, silence, and the particular exhaustion of making themselves smaller so that everyone around them could be more comfortable.
Nobody asked. She remembers anyway. And in the remembering, she finds what she was looking for all along — not answers, but the knowledge that the questions themselves were worth asking.
For every woman who has wondered, for fifty years, whether any of it was her fault. It wasn’t.